➣ [Epub] ➝ Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha By Tara Brach ➭ – Golanvideoagency.info

Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha I ve only read the previous edition, but I am here to tell you that Brach brings a message that is welcome tonic to the soul of anyone who has ever felt inadequate or unworthy for any reason Usually these reasons have to do with culturally defined standards and ideals that no person can ever live up to fully Brach skillfully weaves these influences together with psychological and Christianity based explanations of how we live our lives in the trance of unworthiness, and how we can move beyond it It s all about accepting yourself, of discovering and treasuring the unique goodness within you, and of training ourselves to see these qualities in other people Book offers guided meditations at the end of each chapter to help the reader work on the principles and living practices that chapter discusses. I think the perceptions of this book are directly related to the suffering and innate self hatred that the reader possesses When the concept of lovingkindness is absolutely foreign to you then this book can save your life Something I absolutely cherish about this book is kind and gentle repetition I would read a concept and compartmentalize it as something I either had heard before, already knew, or couldn t possibly work Then she d reintroduce the same concept with a case study, a personal example or simply restated Eventually even my stubborn mind was able to accept and hear the message it was trying so hard to avoid and reject.Along those same lines the author seemed to anticipate my mental rejection of the concepts She would directly confront rationalizations, sarcastic comments or undermining doubts in a way that clearly demonstrated she understood the problems faced by her readers The most profound impact that this book had was not while I was reading it but later, when I would try and become frustrated at being unable to implement it s teachings I would chastise myself or the book or ideas and suddenly become aware that I was falling into a pattern explicitly detailed here and given instructions on how to unravel the habits I had become so used to That is not to imply that this book is a cure all for deep, debilitating issues but it s a really excellent introduction to thought processes and patterns that we each are so lacking particularly those most dramatically affected by mental disorders or severe depression anxiety self hatred. Tara Brach leads a weekly meditation class in the metro D.C area, and I ve been to several of them Her sessions inspire just as much calm and assuredness as this book does Tara is sort of like the anti Dr Phil Instead of screaming at you about what an idiot you are, Tara puts a comforting arm around you, like an old friend, and using a combination of psychological techniques and a gentle form of Theravada Buddhism, she shows us how we can stop living with doubt, regret, and fear and lead a happy, fulfilled life, with a clarity of mind that we can then use to reach out to others who are mired in the same delusions we once were Me, I m still working on all of this, but Tara offers you the tools to help you get to a better place, if you re only willing to make the effort.Some might argue that Tara s approach is too lightweight Fair enough It s not for everybody I m sure some people WANT Dr Phil to smack them around Different personalities need different approaches Tara fills an important need for those who appreciate a gentler approach to getting themselves whipped into psychic shape. This book offers much than it first seems to From introducing the Buddhist practice of mindfulness as applied to difficult experiences, it deepens and opens out into practices of radical compassion for oneself and others radical lovingkindness Working practicing my way through this book very slowly over four months time has been a tremendous gift Tara Brach begins by teaching a new way of approaching emotionally intolerable situations being overwhelmed and practically nonfunctional because of physical manifestations of anxiety, fear, desire, melancholy, depression, anger, embarrassment, as well as by a sense of unworthiness, guilt or shame She delves into situations of interpersonal conflict, loss, grief, and learning to forgive when forgiveness seems impossible The practice begins centered in the self and slowly shifts over time to an outward focused, selfless practice of awareness and compassion It begins by pausing, stepping back, and becoming fully aware of everything that is going on within and around oneself and then regarding oneself and these experiences gently and without immediate judgment With clear seeing and radical acceptance the situation and my own emotions may still exist but they are no longer completely disabling and in fact it might even be possible to appreciate them I honestly do not always want to get rid of my sometimes intolerably intense emotions and responses to things because, as an artist, they form the fuel for the power and intensity of my art But still, it can be hard to live with them in relationships as well as by myself And as the practice develops, lo and behold it becomes possible to shift from focus on oneself to focus on others, lovingkindness for others To learn to live with in peace with myself and others at least of the time is an indescribable blessing.This is also a lovely book, filled with poetry by Rumi, Rilke and others Tara Brach is quite vulnerable in sharing her personal stories, which may or may not appeal to everyone, but you do not have to have a story line similar to hers to appreciate the teachings I have tagged many passages and poems to return to I first reviewed this book when I had only read it halfway through twice and thought I got it but don t stop when you re halfway through, because the book is structured to deepen and expand as it goes along, building on previous knowledge, and the second half focuses most strongly on the practices of lovingkindness and is very worthwhile. So I don t usually read self help books At all I kinda hate them And I don t usually read hippy dippy Buddhist stuff either, because I get too scoffy When I started this one, I almost didn t go past the first chapter, because it was not really resonating with me at all And parts of the book like the closing chapter on discovering our true essence and realizing we are nothing but awareness super hippy dippy totally fell flat But there were a few key sections, and really the overarching concept, that were just so useful and important and applicable I liked a lot how she used real life anecdotes about people applying these concepts to their own challenges I particularly appreciated the chapter on how to accept fear and the accompanying meditation guide for how to work through fear to a place of acceptance and power It is a skill set I need to develop in a bad way before I go through childbirth in a few months I m also on a somewhat hippy dippy journey in general to reshape revitalize my spirituality which I thought had been permanently killed and buried, and which I m really enjoying being able to connect with in new ways And reading about different spiritual experiences people have with these meditation techniques, and feeling the familiarity of it all from when I used to pray on my knees to Jesus, really reawakened a desire to use that part of myself I was gonna give it 4 stars, but there were some random, subtle hints of misogyny totally random calling of one woman a bitch, and a few little diatribes about how uncaring mothers can emotionally fuck up their children for life Disappointing to see those in here in a couple of spots, but not enough to eliminate the usefulness of a 300 page book. One sometimes runs into folks who are suspicious of Buddhism and particularly of the capacity of westerners to find solace in an allegedly Buddhist perspective I am not a Buddhist, but have found a lot of value in meditation and in the ethical viewpoint roughly associated with Buddhist practice So if the discussion comes to exchanging book titles this is the one I recommend as an introduction to what I ll roughly call a Buddhist approach to suffering There are better books on meditation There are better books on the Precepts the founding concerns of Buddhist ethical life There are better books onBuddhist monastic life, lay life, activism, spirituality, sexuality, relation to psychotherapy, the tradition s kooks and heroes and Americanization But I don t think there s a better voiced introductory book on the practical value of cultivating a Buddhist frame of mind in relation to suffering and what she calls the trances of everyday life The first time an American from what is most likely a Christian background picks up a Buddhisty book it s likely to be pretty scary Tara Brach seems to get that, and to address such seekers in an inviting and heart opening way One of the things I like about this book is the many sources it draws on It is personal, telling, for example, of joining an ashram and having a falling out with its leader, of a divorce, of difficulties in raising her son It draws on her professional work, relating stories of exchanges that, as a psychotherapist, she has had with her clients And most of all it is literary, skillfully so She retells and interprets stories from the tradition, as well as anecdotes from contemporary American life, all to the end of introducing the outlines of a kind of consciousness she calls Radical Acceptance There is a two star review by Robert who calls the book pretty lightweight I think I can see where he s coming from, although the way that I d put it is that this book is highly syncretic Robert damns the book s stylistic achievement with faint praise calling it a breezy read Here I would disagree It does go down easy, but the it that goes down is a broad, passionate, intelligent, practical introduction to a rich spiritual tradition about which there is a growing curiosity. Kripalu Yoga is primarily a practice of compassion, and this book is it s perfect companion The foundation of all yoga practice is acceptance, and it begins with ourselves Feelings of deficiency are common to all of us Being criticized, making mistakes, and experiencing relationship difficulties, all can make us feel unworthy Our human suffering and our loneliness keep us from feeling fulfilled Recognizing how we become trapped by these feelings is the first step in reconnecting with who we really are perfect beings Through personal stories, case histories and guided meditations, Ms Brach brings her teachings alive, showing her readers how to transcend their day to day existence to arrive at a sense of clearsightedness and acceptance of who they are in every moment of their lives Based in Buddhist teachings, we awaken to our experience exactly as it is, and find the joy that is our birthright This is a book to savor and reread again and again, a place of refuge in a chaotic and jarring world. about recognizing, with compassion, your own weaknesses and in the end, finding room to accept them and treat them with love in effect, healing yourself It s like going over to a suffering plant in a garden and tending to it with care, feeding the soil, doing away with pests, giving it compost, sunlight, water is, metaphorically, how this book suggests we deal with our own fragile, deeply human lives that by encouraging our friends and families to take care of themselves the same way, we collectively reach a higher state of health, freedom and, ultimately, justice The actual book review says on this, too. Not overly impressive, but a nice and helpful book Brach writes a treatise on how the integration of Buddhist spirituality and meditative practices most often based in the Theravadan traditions of vipassana and metta can partner with western psychotherapy to assist in healing and personal development.Intellectually it is pretty lightweight, which isn t to say that it doesn t package and reiterate some helpful ideas in useful ways My biggest challenge with the book was that I couldn t really figure out what she was trying to do Is it a dharma book A self help book An instructional book to therapists Not that there can t be some overlap, but it read to me as being a shallow bit of all of these without going deeply into any of them Her cases are particularly weak as very quickly the recipe for them become clear a client patient is stuck or having some kind of intractable problem, works with Brach to integrate the cultivation of mindfulness and compassion, and presto change o All is well It can also be difficult to read some of these without a touch of eye rolling since in her descriptions of her patients post practice often includes descriptions where they are filled with light in touch with the great emptiness of awareness etc I m paraphrasing.Her breaking down of specific concepts and applying them somewhat systematically is helpful and for most of the book, a breezy read I found the last few chapters that I was losing a bit of patience , and her inclusion of specific exercises and meditations connected to each concept by chapter is helpful As, to whatever degree it is, the book has some role as a discussion and instructional guide for practitioner therapists interested in integrating meditative practices and Buddhist spirituality into their work it would have been extremely helpful, and in my mind helped her cause of this as a serious discussion, if she had spent some focused time and energy on the challenges of doing so, some cases that didn t go so well, places where the two traditions can seem and maybe or maybe not be contradictory or incompatible Those looking to specifically integrate mindfulness vipassana connected traditions and practice to psychotherapy practice will find a pleasant snack here, but not a substantive meal For a interesting and exploratory, and less evangelical although no less passionate , discussion of the integration of psychotherapy rooted mostly in psychodynamic theory and Buddhism, try Mark Epstein s books, Thoughts Without a Thinker, Going to Pieces Without Falling Apart, and Open to Desire. For Many Of Us, Feelings Of Deficiency Are Right Around The Corner It Doesn T Take Much Just Hearing Of Someone Else S Accomplishments, Being Criticized, Getting Into An Argument, Making A Mistake At Work To Make Us Feel That We Are Not Okay Beginning To Understand How Our Lives Have Become Ensnared In This Trance Of Unworthiness Is Our First Step Toward Reconnecting With Who We Really Are And What It Means To Live Fullyfrom Radical AcceptanceRadical Acceptance Believing That Something Is Wrong With Us Is A Deep And Tenacious Suffering, Says Tara Brach At The Start Of This Illuminating Book This Suffering Emerges In Crippling Self Judgments And Conflicts In Our Relationships, In Addictions And Perfectionism, In Loneliness And Overwork All The Forces That Keep Our Lives Constricted And Unfulfilled Radical Acceptance Offers A Path To Freedom, Including The Day To Day Practical Guidance Developed Over Dr Brach S Twenty Years Of Work With Therapy Clients And Buddhist StudentsWriting With Great Warmth And Clarity, Tara Brach Brings Her Teachings Alive Through Personal Stories And Case Histories, Fresh Interpretations Of Buddhist Tales, And Guided Meditations Step By Step, She Leads Us To Trust Our Innate Goodness, Showing How We Can Develop The Balance Of Clear Sightedness And Compassion That Is The Essence Of Radical Acceptance Radical Acceptance Does Not Mean Self Indulgence Or Passivity Instead It Empowers Genuine Change Healing Fear And Shame And Helping To Build Loving, Authentic Relationships When We Stop Being At War With Ourselves, We Are Free To Live Fully Every Precious Moment Of Our Lives From The Hardcover Edition


About the Author: Tara Brach

Tara Brach is a leading western teacher of Buddhist meditation, emotional healing and spiritual awakening She has practiced and taught meditation for over 35 years, with an emphasis on vipassana mindfulness or insight meditation Tara is the senior teacher and founder of the Insight Meditation Community of Washington A clinical psychologist, Tara is the author ofRadical Acceptance Embracing Y


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